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Are you dating a narcissist? (part 3)
In the previous two posts, I outlined the first two stages of how the narcissist hooks their victim. In this post, I will describe the addictive process they create to keep the victim coming back for more. Third stage: create anxiety in the victim. Now that destabilization is established, the next step is to create …
Are you dating a narcissist? (part 2)
Last week I wrote about the narcissist sets up the initial dynamics. This week I will describe the second stage. Second stage: love and/or sex bombing. Now that the victim is attracted to their likeability and vulnerability, the next stage is to hook the victim. Because Narcissists are aware of their shortcomings, they will initially …
Are you dating a narcissist?
In this 3-part series, I will explain in detail the dynamics of how a narcissist shows up in a romantic relationship. Taylor Swift had it wrong in her song “Don’t Blame Me.” Love isn’t supposed to make you crazy. If it does, you’re probably dating a narcissist. Narcissists come in all forms. They can be …
Why Being Perfect Isn’t Great
We think of the word “perfect”, and we think of the optimum, the ultimate, the absolute best. So, it follows that when we think of “perfectionists” we think of high achievers, high performers…you know, successful people. Nobody thinks of perfectionism as negative. But it is. Perfectionists exhibit many self-defeating behaviors. They think that unless they …
Stop Holding Yourself Back: Defeat Self-Defeating Thinking
We become what we think. We all tend to internalize negative messages we receive, whether they are from our parents, friends, or romantic partners. These messages may have been explicitly spoken, or merely communicated through actions, or even inactions. We are often unaware of the degree to which we have internalized these negative thoughts. What …
How You May Be Sabotaging Your Mental Health
Congratulations! You have made the brave and potentially life-altering step of getting some counseling. Good for you. But did you know that some very simple things you are doing right now could be sabotaging your progress? When people come to see me, naturally the focus is on whatever relationship, sexual, or emotional issue they are …
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